Tara Rose Schreiber tells us about being vegan, acting, and how deep human connections make her happy.
Tara is an actress.
- Tara comes out the door saying she’s vegan; turns out people who are vegan will tell you they are, you don’t even have to try to find out—and they want to influence others, but it doesn’t always happen. Tara’s go-to is By Chloe
- The connective tissue of all the things that make Tara happy is human human connections. How two souls can sit in front of each other and connect in deep, meaningful ways. Being a part of that connection, or even witnessing such a connection, makes Tara happy.
- These connections are rare because we are conditioned to close ourselves so as to not get hurt. But if you close yourself you also cannot feel the good, positive things.
- Tara takes this into every setting; from the person working behind the counter to the person handing out flyers, to your best friend.
A lot of people looking for love are looking for a deep connection and they use their bodies to build a physical connection to lead to a deep spiritual connection. Tara believes physical and spiritual connections are separate and you can’t use one to seek the other one. Physical connections on their own are superficial, they need an existing spiritual connection to be deep.
- When Tara connects in a spiritual level, she feels like her body is so relaxed that it melts. She feels safe with the person she’s connected with; there’s no judgment. Emotionally, she feels at peace and like everything the other person says is important. Sometimes if she can’t feel the connection physically, her emotions will shine through; and vice versa.
While she can connect with everyone, she can’t connect on a deep level with everyone—Tara is afraid that would make her a psychopath. Instead, she is able to connect on different levels with different people; for example, before she talks to a barista, Tara will make eye contact, ask them how they are doing, or even complimenting them.
- A lot of people are taken aback by that kind of openness. Tara cites again that we are conditioned to close ourselves up for protection, but she is conditioned to do the opposite and whenever possible she will make a connection without forcing one.
- Sometimes with a stranger or an acquaintance, it’s enough to open the door. You can make a small connection to let them know they are allowed to open up, and then let then allow them to decide how much or how little to connect.
- This has become the standard way for Tara, but she started up being conditioned to be closed off. She decided that wasn’t the right way to be. Once she opened up herself, she got heartbroken and her first reaction was to question why she opened up to begin with, but she learned that you need the good with the bad, you need to hate in order to love, sadness in order to be happy, and she learned to open up.
- As an actress, Tara has to create connections on command. Tara has been told by the last few directors she’s worked with that she connects very easily with other actors. Tara doesn’t fake that connection; she opens up and allows the other actor, and the characters, to connect. Tara also needs to connect with the character; she talks with the writers and directors as if they were the character so she can connect with it. Tara feels she needs to connect with her own character before she can have it connect with someone else.
- The process with herself is very different; it’s harder to know yourself. You have to constantly understand and engage with yourself. It’s hard to fully connect to oneself and love oneself truly, it’s a choice one has to do every day—and Tara describes this self-connection as a beautiful job, not a chore.
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