Rob tells us about his career change in 2015, how his in-the-moment outlook has changed his life, and why just being makes him happy.
Rob Graff is the Marketing Director at Spoonful Magazine, Sales Associate at The Running Place and Managing Partner at The Law Firm of Robert H. Graff, LLC. He has an amazing story to and weâ€™re really excited for him to share it with us. In the meantime you should know heâ€™s started training for his first marathon and is aiming for a goal of three-and-a-half hours. (Best of luck, Rob!)
What makes Rob happy? Just being and doing the things he enjoys the mostâ€”talking to people, helping them and helping create a better day for others. Once an Assistant District Attorney and Consultant, he changed his life around in the Spring of 2015 when he realized these things did not make him happy. What he did know is that he likes running and beer, which led to him working at The Running Place and Spoonful Mag. Because he enjoys it, he also continues to practice law. Different from before, he doesnâ€™t pressure himself to take all cases anymore. He allows this to happen in the moment and unravel organically.
What exactly does being in the moment mean to Rob? It means slowing down and realizing there are no right or wrong answers. He loves working at The Running Place because he never knows who he is going to meet. And every time he has a meeting at Spoonful, there are many ideas that come up and possibilities he feels that can happen. Enjoying these things without any expectations just feels right to him.
Because whatever you feel and whoever you are is absolutely okay, says Rob. As a prosecutor, he was so angry all the time, judging people instead of solely focusing in on the facts. Heâ€™s been able to change this by taking a step back, looking at people from a different angle and being able to say â€œThis is just who they are.â€ Even his friends and family are noticing the difference. Rob admits itâ€™s really easy to judge others when youâ€™re unhappy yourself. When he first got into law, he did it because he witnessed a hearing and it seemed like fun (life is all about having fun for Rob!). After a while, it wasnâ€™t. He was running a consulting business which was failing and became unhappy in the process. What he had originally done to achieve freedom was actually creating the opposite.
Freedom, which to Rob is the ability to make self wealth and have self direction. Kind of how he feels when he is running. Rob puts on his sneakers, turns on an audio book on the subject of self-help or business development and zones out for whatever amount of time he has to himself. That feeling is freedom.
Rob accomplished the dream of going to law school and becoming a lawyer. The type of life that makes you six figures and allows you to drive a Mercedes. Only, he realized this was never his dream at all but the expectations he felt from family and society. A good thing because his talents are not going to waste. In the end, what he cares about most is helping and impacting others. He who never smiled with his clients now takes it upon himself to make people feel comfortable when they enter the legal system. He jokes with them, reassures them, and is friendly. Even his relationships with his family have changed.
Rob wants his family to be happy and does his best to ensure this is happening presure free. Although he may not always get along with the people he loves or even meet their expectations, through following what makes him happy, he hopes to show others that the most important path to follow is the path to self happiness. This doesnâ€™t mean making the decision towards happiness come worry freeâ€”heâ€™s a lawyer afterall and was taught to think like one at all timesâ€”but he believes things work out. Not that he is a religious person, but he knows that there is an energy that brings all things together in the end.
Take his current lifestyle. Rob dabbles in many different areas but it all seems to work out. He puts in about 35 hours a week at The Running Place, is at Spoonful as needed and also takes on clients. Perhaps because heâ€™s too much of an optimist nowadays, Rob says, all of these things seem to pan out perfectly schedule-wise. He believes that if you just accept where you are and let things happen, they will work out in your favor.
Robâ€™s change in demeanor isnâ€™t always equally matched by the colleagues and clients he works with. To put it simply, you canâ€™t mix oil and water. Sometimes he meets those he gets along with just fine with and working with them is smooth and easy. Other times, he meets people who donâ€™t match his demeanor and it doesnâ€™t just work. No matter what the situation may be, however, itâ€™s not worth it to Rob to butt heads. Whether this means choosing not to argue with another attorney or making sure a client leaves with the right pair of shoes even if you donâ€™t get along with them, in the end itâ€™s about coming to the right solution.
All of these positive life changes Rob has made make him feel incredibly blessed. He knows that not everyone has the opportunity to drop their current job and move on to doing what makes them happy. Although he does feel more people have the power to change their life, just like he did, and just donâ€™t know it. Perhaps a fear of the unknown, Rob shares that tomorrow is not promised, and while we canâ€™t always live from our hearts, we shouldnâ€™t ever wait or plan our lives in order to be happy. We can do that right now.
What else makes Rob happy? People that have the same mindset as him, having fun, being in the moment, memories of the Eagles reaching the Superbowl in 2004 and when he is out running. You can catch more on Rob by visiting his Instagram. He also encourages you to learn more about Spoonful Mag by visiting their website or Instagram.
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