Michelle Currica tells us about her travels, how acting on a whim can result in positive surprises, and why giving herself permission to be happy makes her happy.
Happiness is a state of mind; itâ€™s your choice. Being in the moment makes Michelle happy
Michelle gave herself permission to embrace the moment, but she has to remind herself to do so on a regular basis; one moment of realization was when she was in Japan, after ending a relationship, doing a pilgrimage when she realized that being in the moment is the most effective way to be
Choosing to be happy has consequences; you may hurt other people because they donâ€™t understand that your choice for happiness doesnâ€™t have to do with them.If another person needs constant reassurance that everything is ok, that may be harmful to them<
There are more things to be thankful for than there are to be unhappy for.
You can see the changes in other people, both good or bad; but if you donâ€™t fit in each otherâ€™s picture anymore, then it is time to say goodbye. Some people canâ€™t understand that itâ€™s ok to be happy
In the US we think we need to have things, or look a certain way to be happy, or to have accomplish certain things to be happy; we need to allow ourselves to be happy
Jealousy exists, we all have it, we all feel this way, but if we catch it we can pull yourself back from it and just accept what is happening in front of you without that layer of jealousy
Preparing for her ten-year graduation reunion from Agnes Scott College, Michelle got caught up in the idea of having to impress others and showing off he accomplishments and realized thatâ€™s not what itâ€™s about; she still feels nervous about who she was then and who she is now and catches herself
Michelle wanted braces growing up because she has gap teeth and she hated her smile; her parents wouldnâ€™t let her do it because that is a trait that runs in their family and is something her familyâ€™s culture (they are from Guayana) find beautiful; now Michelle embraces this trait and refuses to have it corrected
Sometimes Michelle wishes she can conform, but in a way she can still be unique; when she was in Japan she was in a town where the population was mostly children and seniors, and people werenâ€™t used to seeing a black person and they would follow her around the supermarket seeing what she was shopping for
When people stay isolated in their culture and donâ€™t explore outside of it, you donâ€™t know how to accept difference
Growing in Memphis, Michelle had a view of Black History, and now in Philadelphia she is seeing another facet of Black History. Philly is a city of immigrants, a city of arts, a city of national history
We donâ€™t always give each other the opportunity to hear the other personâ€™s story
Sometimes acting on a whim can prove to be a good thing. At a party, Michelle met a guy who invited her to check out the Aikido dojo he attends. Normally she would have thought that this guy was just pestering her, but Michelle decided to look into it and went to the dojo and as a result she has been practicing Aikido over the last two year.
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